mom was acting cold when she picked up the kids and she knows that my family hates her for what she is doing and that our sitch is all her fault. She says that in future relationships I need to stand up for partner no matter what. (my mom and W had blow up a couple of years ago and she doesn't feel like I took her side). Continues on how her family loves me and is their for me and my family hates her and always had treated her poorly.
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I feel that my family treats her exactly like she treats them, her family loves me because I love them, I reach out to them, I care for them and I help them whenever I can.
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me and hug W tell her that I am very sorry for the way that my family has treated you. They didn't give you the amount of love and respect that you deserve.
If you didn't stand up for her in the past, then you need to own it. But if it's b.s., then maybe it would be better to say "I'm sorry; that must be really hard for you right now," or some other "value-neutral" validation statement. And you CERTAINLY don't have to lie or "rescue" to cover up for her recent decisions.
