My story, what to do next.

[digger22]

W over last night to watch kids. She has to get some more items together and then she can start keeping the kids at her place. I think it is going to work much better with her farther away.

When she arrived I could tell that she was upset. Before I left she says that (my mom watches the kids on MON.) mom was acting cold when she picked up the kids and she knows that my family hates her for what she is doing and that our sitch is all her fault. She says that in future relationships I need to stand up for partner no matter what. (my mom and W had blow up a couple of years ago and she doesn't feel like I took her side). Continues on how her family loves me and is their for me and my family hates her and always had treated her poorly. She said she hears about everything I am doing and that the whole town (small town) thinks that she is the "bad" guy in this whole deal. I assure her that I have never thrown her under the bus and that I only speak the truth about what is happening. I tell everyone that I understand where W is at and that in her mind their is nothing that could be done to make it better.

I leave and go to brother's basketball game. The first 15 minutes is spent stewing about W and how I am going to go home and rip her a new one. I feel that my family treats her exactly like she treats them, her family loves me because I love them, I reach out to them, I care for them and I help them whenever I can. W also said that when she thought about us getting back together she just knows we never could because of my family.

Finally I cool down and come to my senses. I enjoy the rest of the game, Go home and hug W tell her that I am very sorry for the way that my family has treated you. They didn't give you the amount of love and respect that you deserve. She is always questioning me about "is this what the internet or your books tell you to do?"

I tell her that everything I am learning about has nothing to do with her. I understand that reconciliation is something that is not that common, but I just want to come to peace with my situation and be able to find the man that I had lost during our M. I end the night asking to ML in a flirty sort of way (I am in a very confident, playful mood and it doesn't matter what she says) She smiles and says that "we can't do that". I smile and tell her playfully to Get the f---k out of the house you sl-t. She smiles and is on her way.