It is definitely a roller coaster. What has been helping me, when it seems like H and I won't talk for a day, I just keep on going. I plan my life and if H asks then I change it if I want to. For example last Thursday, I planned dinner and even made dinner. At 6 H texts me to ask to go out to eat, so I just packed up the dinner for another night and went out. I would suggest to you to (after the loniness passes, which may take a few days) resolve to live your life. Be flexible in case H calls or text and wants to do something and you are willing, but otherwise just live life like he is not a part of it. If he wants to be a part of it, he will come along, if not, you already have your life and although it is hard to live without H, you will at least know where you stand and be able to move on.
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