Thanks Soleil- I wish I had done a better job while she was still at home- I was obscessed over the A and it affected much of my behavior. Oh well- nothing I can do about it now. It was the most difficult few months of my life- the constant stress, the lies, the tit-for-tat. I GAL and she acts out even more. I make myself available and regret it, etc etc etc.
We all obsessed over the affairs. Its only natural. You are going to think about it all the time for quite a while to come. Its how we process things to store them and understand them. Right now our understanding is rather lacking. So we process and process and process. It is a defining moment in our lives. And we will see our lives as before and after that moment when we found out. Our reactions are at first confused and lacking direction. Then we start to wake up. Play the game. And take over the flow of the game. Or at least think we have control of the game.
You are not doing the No Contact right now. You are doing the DIM LRT. Keep with her having her space. And keep working on yourself.
P.S. it was nice of you to drop by. You posted a very good question my friend. I am glad you took time from your life to look in on mine. Thank you very much.
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