It's what happened in my M...I had emotionally walked away, but know what happened when my H dropped the bomb and I couldn't talk him out of it like I'd been able to with every other thing in our M? I took notice and respected the hell out of him. And then I DB'd my butt off to get him back.
Any chance your W might feel the same way?
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I wish I knew. Im still in the process of trying to figure out exactly where she stands. About the only thing I have so far is "She doesnt have it in her to go on" and does not think things can change. Now to top it off the seed has been planted that maybe there is OM and now I have to figure out how to deal with that on top of everything.
Right now I have made the determination to get my life in order and try to take care of myself and stop just throwing everything I have worked for in the past 20 years away. (Like a dumbass I first offered her my entire 401k and all the money from the house if it sells.) I was ready to give up on everything and Ill be honest even have had suicidal thoughts just to end the pain. But after much reflection and even some of the very things I have been reading in these forums has shown me that this same weakness that I am now displaying is the same weakness that has put me in this situation.
This is all so easy to type out, now to start taking those steps.
M:40 W:40 D: 21 S: 18 D: 17 Md: 18 years -1/19/2010 W wants out -6/03/10 "Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one.."
