Quote: there are times that you and their dad will be together to see where things go. There will also be times that you will all be together.
It is hard for my sons to understand why there dad wants us together then a couple of days later wants us gone. My boys are 11 & 10. The boys get upset cause their dad hurts me, makes me upset. I sometimes cry in front of the boys as we are driving home from h's house. They see that and hate h. I don't do it on purpose...sometimes my emotions get the best of me.
Quote: Nothing wrong with being together as a family, then go home. Also, if it feels like you are making progress and staying the night will be ok. I wouldn't hide it from them, but maybe just not in their face kind of thing. Then that is ok too.
I'm cool with going over there and spending the evening but as far as staying the night with our kids there....don't know about that.
Quote: What if you were dating him for the very first time? When would you spend the night?
When my h and I first met we hopped in the sack a month later. Now I guess he wants to revert to the norm of that...sleep together right away. I'd feel more comfortable after a couple of rounds of counseling.
I almost get the sense like h has every intention of coming home after he takes his revenge on me. Like he just went into the court hearing saying he didn't want to be married but really had every intention of agreeing to the continuance. Like he's playing me! I guess I don't mind because I know he is very hurt by the divorce and having to move out. But I think it is totally childish to take revenge on your WIFE!!!!
