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[TrentC]

This is a bulletin board and everyone's opinion is of the same value. It's free. If you were a professional marriage counselor you would have credentials and charge a fee. Your advice should come with a warning. "If this doesn't work, you may find yourself divorced."

She has a point. Those of us who are posting here are offering their advice based on their experiences and opinions, and our advice is worth exactly what you are paying for it.

At the very least, look at the backgrounds of the people you are listening to. There are people here who have rebuilt their marriages, and are spending their time trying to help others. There are others who are healing from their own divorces and are willing to share their experience. And there are plenty of us who are still struggling to save our own relationships, making plenty of mistakes along the way, and are here to offer and ask for support.

None of us are official representatives of Michele Weiner-Davis or this site; if you want their help you need to sign up for the phone coaching, and it's not free. Neither is any other marriage counselor that you are going to talk to.

CGU, you need to decide for yourself how best to handle your situation because you are going to live with the consequences. Do you want to look back on your situation and realize how listening to some pseudo-anonymous person on some website may have cost you your marriage?