Some days I think the boys are doing really good... some days I can see the effects this is all having. But for the most part they are good, normal, healthy boys.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Ms. I, I wonder if we should be friends? Can you come by my thread when you have a minute? I'm not too good at inserting the links and all that jazz. After 20 years, I've left. I'm done. 'Nuf said. In the alt, I'm friends w/ Gypsy, Kerry K, and several others. Peace. Goldey p.s. It's a little early, but could you send a Lemon Drop to my table later?
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
OF COURSE! I will continue counseling until my insurance no longer pays for it It will be 4 years come June (with a small break of a few months in 2008). I am becoming more mentally healthy every week. I honestly think had I not started it when I did... with all I have gone through the past 14 months one of H or I would not be here today. Scary thought huh?
I am doing a "bootcamp" three times per week, and this trainer is working my butt off!
I am getting our debts paid and working toward being debt free so when I do start my life on my own, I will truly have a fresh start.
What is new with you?
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Today I went back and read some of my posts from when I started counseling, June/July 2006 time frame. WOW!
I really wish I had done a better job of recording things here over the years. I was just too afraid of H finding my writings. In hindsight maybe that wouldn't have been such a bad thing, cuz I certainly have never written anything but the truth.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
I need "bootcamp" and counseling, too. Actually I am finally able to talk about my divorce without crying so I feel I have made great progress! I can't believe I have been divorced for almost 2 years. I have no desire to date and am content being by myself. I have my moments when I miss being married, but I don't miss the negative aspects of my marriage.
I am so proud of you for working on the debt. Is your H helping in that regard? You sound like you have a goal and are heading in the right direction. I admire you! Stay in touch!
He is helping by not spending like crazy and that is a huge help.
Mat I wish you would try counseling... or look into a Divorce Care class. A lot of people who go through the class have been divorced for awhile. My leaders wife had been D'd for 7 years when she finally took it.
How is your DD doing?
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
I know counseling would help. I did get tapes for Divorce Care, but at the time there wasn't a class that was convenient. My best friend is a social worker so she is my unofficial therapist. She is always saying things like "your feelings are valid", etc. She and my sisters got me through my divorce.
Just when I am feeling more at peace, my daughter runs off and gets married AND pregnant. It makes me so sad. She isn't even happy which really makes me the most sad. I don't know if the same thing would have happened if her dad and I hadn't gotten divorced, but I do feel like she was unsettled after I moved, but insisted on not moving with me.
