By the way we are in a current stalemate of sorts in the divorce sttlement. You see she/we own a preschool bisness that she directs and operates. She claims that the buisness is worth nothing and is currently failing due to the economy. Therefoe she claims I am entitled to nothing and she can't afford to provide me with the court oredered family support.
Her statagey of not paying the buisness bills, our bills or her bills has paid off. She claims that she has to borrow money from her mother to pay her $2000/month rent each month. As well as for food and housing bills like electricity. So what she has done is to not pay her bills until just before whatever it is, is about to be shut off, then she pays. She makes a copy of it and submits it to the court in an attempt to show how hard her life is.
What she fails to mention is that she left our family home to rent a home for her and our sons. The deposit required for her to move into her new house as well as the last months rent came to a total of $5000. I found this out while snooping in an email she had writen to the OM while she still lived with me. Nor does she seem to remember that I was jobless and had no money. And if not for the fact that my father was able to take me in I would be homeless.
It wasn't until mid-November that I was fortunate enough to get a job. All the while not having a job I lived with my father as I mentioned. He lives 1/2hr. away frm the city we lived in, that the respondent still lives in and my oldest son goes to school in. Since I moved into my fathers home she has refused to drive my sons to my house. She claims that she is only required to drop them off half way. It just so happens that the halfway point is essentially in the middle of know where in a parking lot. Nice! That's the message she wants to send to her sons that she doesn't even have enough respect for then to drive the, to their other home.
In my opinion that is the point now. THEY, HAVE TWO HOMES NOW! It wasn't there choice, it was hers. But it is them that suffers the most displacement and she will not even show then the respect to recognize that it is about then now. That the reality is, they now have two homes. I have made this point to her over and over. I have told her that I will never exchange them with her other than exactly where they are going. Be it at their home with her or at their school. Her response is to tell me that she understands how I feel about it, but she will continue to make the exchange when she is dropping off, at the half way point.
