Give me a break! What are we doing here, war games? This is not a war, and you will not win if she loses. Just as she wasn't winning when you were losing.
Gnosis is a self-admitted male chauvinist who is divorcing his own wife. Why do you take marital advice from him?
If your wife wants to reconcile, and you think you might want to reconcile, then get yourselves to a real marriage counselor. It's time to stop playing games and get some real help. Sheesh!
