So where were we... she flew out to see her lover on Jan 15. This is what we can ASSUME (which is dangerous... but I think an accurate enough assumption...) She tasted her apple and it didn't taste as good as she thought it would. She told her lover that she was there to stay. That she had abandoned everything to be with him and how they would finally be together as "destiny" had determined. They would now be able to live out their dreams. The OM, once he got what he wanted, dumped her... Who knows why... but we can definitely arrive at the conclusion that the bubble has popped. During the time that she was getting her rocks off, you struggled for seven days with NC.
Brings us up to Jan 22. She decides to call you. She throws some crumbs your way to gauge you and see if you are still hanging around as plan B... because Plan A had gone to shirt.You complied by entertaining her questions and going along with her "small talk" for FIFTEEN WHOLE MINUTES... before you woke up and cut the call.
Jan 25 She decides to cast the line again... and feeds you a line of text laden with lies. "Haven't went anywhere, just spending quality time with Wanda {cousin] and Ellen {col friend}, no men involved, no regrets to worry about, just so you know". The part in bold is a LIE. If her intentions were so pure and virginal she would NEVER have even had to mention those three words. She was trying to placate you.
AND HERE IS WHERE YOU BROKE THE CHAIN: You DID NOT comply.
You did the best thing by NOT responding to her text. Because the results speak for themselves... Dale was FINALLY NOT pursuing. She was sitting there for five and a half hours waiting for a reply from you and in the end her anxiety got the best of her. She just had to "mis-dial" you and ensure that you got her text. YOU DID A GREAT JOB there with your response to her. I see you're starting to "get it" and beginning to see how when you STOP pursuing the WAS... and the A is over... the WAS pursues you. Remember this rule. Memorize it. Get it into your head.
Jan 29:
Originally Posted By: Dale
talked 30 min. Told of many diff feelings. Said she realized she had needed an escape, but felt it was like a 'fantasy' in her mind.
She's reeling you back in. She decides that now that she has tested out Plan A... maybe Plan B (Dale) isn't such a bad option after all. You complied by listening and validating. You didn't do too badly here, but you still complied. Relax, I'll give you more kudos further on down...
Before I continue I hope you've woken up to your relationship dynamic: She decides -> You comply
Dale from this point forward THIS IS GOING TO CHANGE. I will tell you how to regain your dignity. You are in an ideal position and from now on YOU are going to call the shots.
