Tonight something strange happened but I really think its for a reason. Maybe God wants me to realize my life isn't really that bad compared to some.
Way back when about 15ish years ago my first exh and I were friends with this other couple and their kids. She had 4 kids about the same ages as mine. We were very close friends. Vacationed together, dinners, hung out alot. She was even there when my son was born. But we both ended up going thru divorces about the same time and she moved out of the immediate area and we sort of lost touch. Sadly, her son21 died this past summer of a drug overdose. I heard thru the grapevine that they were trying to get him help but it was too late. So, tonight I was on FB and she sent me a message out of the blue wanting to know if baby and I wanted to have dinner with her and her son from her second marriage on Friday night. He is now 9 or so.
I thought it was random but nice. She is going to come over and we are going to order out so it will be easier with baby and we can talk. Last 4th of July she lost her son, and for whatever reason she is reaching out to me. We haven't talked in probably 3 years. Looking forward to seeing her, but not sure what to say. My life compared to hers is a cakewalk. I cannot imagine what she is going through.
Be a friend. Listen to her. "Meet" her son. Show kindness, and concern. Reminisce, enjoy the time. This IS an opportunity for you. We all need wake up calls now and then. I too had a friend lose her son (&only child) and it does punch you in the gut to know it could happen to any of us. AND we are so lucky it has not hit us. Be grateful, and comfortable in showing compassion to her. She's hurting yet she is reaching out. Good for her. Don't get into wallowing; give HER strength with yours. Believe it or not, you have some "Extra" you can share with her. Know what I mean? Take care, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
