someone, PLEASE help me get a grasp!

[kjensen]

Lost-
That feeling of sadness or being down when nothing happens tells me that you might have been building some hopeful expecations in the back of your head?..otherwise a quiet-nothing happening kind of day..would be just another day.

I used to do that- I get that. Its hard when the MLCer starts seeming normal, even interested! But know that it won't last..So don't expect it to and you won't get those disappointed days/moments.

I thought my H was the one that would get through this MLC sooner that all the (his)stories I'd read...I let him move back after the OW dumped him, days after he asked for divorce. He seemed 'normal'/shamed/regretful..and I shouldn't have..he wasn't ready..he wasn't through with depression, anger, withdrawal...he's still going. It has hurt my daughters the most having H move back home only to leave 6 months later and now really divorce their mother..Ahhh Hindsight!!

So...be patient...enjoy the good times, expect nothing and keep GALing!