Please help! Had a R talk!

[kjensen]

Hey Sydney,
Your in a hard spot with your H spewing out hurtful things, lashing out...rewriting the past..Its very hard stuff not to defend, not to have your voice heard.

But to defend yourself will do no good and will only add fuel to your H's fire and validate that his perception and opinion are right...

So, as has been said before...vent here, vent in a letter that you burn afterwards..find a way to get past your hurt and angry feelings and have compassion instead.

Your H is not himself and that is hard to truly understand when he acts "normal" sometimes and "alien" at others...

Pick someone's thread here that resonates and read their postings from beginning to end and you will find the long and roundabout ride the MLC journey can be..you'll see the anger, the denial, the replay, the depression..the withdrawal.. now imagine your H going through those stages/phases..How are YOU going to manage and get YOURSELF through this journey?

Get a life, know yourself, know what you want/need, go dim/dark when possible, validate when able, be a friend to our H if/when possible...there are so many things you CAN do to keep yourself going...

Focus on YOU.