Changing Man

[Serenity13]

(((Gardener)))

The joy would be all mine my friend

Hope you had a great day today and the night is even better to you.

(((Hugs)))

[Gardener]

Reminder, folks, of two things:

1) I'll still be chiming in here at newcomers, but will be posting at my new home in Surviving The Big D (Soaring Solo 2010).
2) Please stop by. If you stop by today, I'll tell you why today is a great day - twice!

I'll be at your threads, but not here at Changing Man (besides, he's changed!)

Blessings to all. You saved me!

[Gardener]

Hi, friends,

A first venting journaling from this old thread in quite a while.
And I had to rescue this old thread out of the archives to do so.

While I've been over at Surviving the Big D almost exclusively for about a month, (at least in terms of posting about my own sitch), I'm nowhere near the Big D, originally scheduled for December 23rd.

As many of you know, I've postponed it twice by pitching a fit at the "terms."
And as it gets "curiouser and curiouser", I just keep getting "disillusioneder and disillusioneder"

Lies. Obfuscation. Entitlement. "Gimme, gimme, gimme." Slander. Poisoning loved one against loved one.

Law and legal proceedings as a repository for truth and facts? Bullsh!t.

I'm so glad my N.U.T.s kicked in and I ended my "Fine-whatever-let's-just-get-on-with-it-and-get-it-over-with resigned stance.

But it's costing me much more money than I'll ever recoup in any potential new terms (and more money than I even presently have, for that matter). And the last 14 months have already put me in the absolute worst financial position (or lack thereof) that I've been in my entire life.

And I don't care.

And. I. Am. Exhausted.

And I'm sick of people telling me, "man, you look like sh!t!"

You know the old jokes "I'm so broke I can't even pay attention!" and
"I'm so broke I can't afford to spend the night!"

Well, lately, I'm so broke I can't afford to GAL. Rarely leave the house.

As I just told my good friend Serenity (which is what precipitated this p!ssy post):

Speaking of which, I just spent FOUR HOURS assembling, organizing and refuting - in a looong email to my lawyer - all the lies, distortions, history-rewriting, reneged agreements of TGSTBXW (Thank God! STBXW) for Wednesday's showdown that I forced last week by telling 'em all again to go screw two days before D.
I'm exhausted.

Forgive me if I repeat myself, but did I mention last week what TGSTBXW's lawyer had the nerve to write me, directly? Not even through my lawyer?

"This case is unlike others where one party simply deserts the marital asset leaving the other to pay all costs."

Once again, I admit that I don't text and rarely use text-ese, but..
WTF??

That's exactly what this case is!

At least I've got a great lawyer and I've finally told him to take the gloves off (upon which I immediately had to put another big check in his newly-un-gloved hand).

So, we'll see Wednesday morning.

Thanks for listening. I don't feel any better, but definitely less burdened.
Better will come tomorrow.
It usually does with the gift of a new day.

And at least when the house finally sells, my economic woes will be dramatically reversed.

Sorry for the rare whining, but if not here; where?

[kara]

You can whine all you want with us, Gardener.

[kara]

Though I prefer the word vent

[givingitmyall]

Sorry for the rare whining, but if not here; where?

Kara's right. Venting. And that's OTAY!

Here's my vent for the evening: If I have to watch one more f'ing valentine's jewelry, florist, candy ad, I think my head will explode.

[kara]

Tee hee, GIMA. I feel you on that one. At least Valentine's Day is on the weekend so we won't have to watch everybody at work all googly eyed yakking on about their flowers and their plans. I feel like hurling!!!!

Hmmm. I am calm and serene right now...

[Gypsy]

Hey G'Man


Forgive me if I repeat myself, but did I mention last week what TGSTBXW's lawyer had the nerve to write me, directly? Not even through my lawyer?

"This case is unlike others where one party simply deserts the marital asset leaving the other to pay all costs."


It's against the law.. the code.. for your wife's lawyer to contact you directly. TABOO to the nth degree.

Hope this ends quickly.

*hugs*

[Gardener]

Thanks, Kara and Gima. Feeling a bit better after the venting.

[Gardener]

G-Woman,

It's against the law.. the code.. for your wife's lawyer to contact you directly. TABOO to the nth degree.

I know. And I think at some point someone told STBXW that her "butt out" email to Bob was totally inappropriate and taboo, too.

Hope this ends quickly.

Me too. I think now it finally will. I believe Bob does, too. He just emailed me with, "Substantive comments tomorrow. Just be yourself, relax as best as you can, and know what is and is not important to you."

I emailed him back, thanked him and told him that I

want out as cleanly and fiscally responsibly as possible.

Thank you.