Who told you to "use" her? Can't you just have some friendly dates? Do you have to start picking out the towels already?
I know what you are saying. I appreciate your respectful thoughts toward this woman and your W. But it concerns me how so many LBH's are taking the first nibble from a gal as being the sign to send out wedding invitations. Okay, so you're not going that far....yet. Did you tell this woman your marital status? I'm sure you did. Did she seem "eager" to go forward in a R with you? I guess I'm too suspcious of people. Watched too many movies (lol).
Just take a day at a time and see where it takes you. Besides, she may "use" you......who knows. But are you saying that you will put an end to a future with your W even if she wants to reconcile......b/c of a woman you've met one time?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
