Wow, I can't believe it! We had our continuance divorce hearing today and my h agreed to a 90 day continuance!

When the judge first asked if there was an agreement on reconciliation, my h said no and I said yes then my attorney stepped in. My attorney said that it has been back and forth with my h, that we'd attended counseling (my h butted in and said only one session), and that any further hearings would not take up any more court time because we have a final decree. So the judge hesitated, read our file, then asked my h if he would agree to any time for reconciliation and that is when my h said 90 days.

Outside the courtroom, I asked my h what he would he want to do with our 90 days and he said go to counseling. Then we went to breakfast.

As we got ready to leave he asked for a kiss then he asked me to go home with him. I said no he said well think about it and you know where I live. I'll be disappointed if you don't come over. He is leaving for Florida today. I said no I don't think so.

As I was nearly home he called my cellphone to ask again if I'd come over. I said no because MingL was too much of an emotional attachement for me that I did not want to make at this time. I said you knew the divorce was going to hurt me I had told you that yet you were going to go through with it. He said well you have given no thought to my feelings when you filed...how it hurt me. I said well you say things are going to be different yet you still don't do what I ask...you don't talk to me. He said I don't know what you want from me...I know what the problems are. I said yes you know and you know also what I need yet you don't do it. He said well that is why he agreed to the 90 days to see if this could be fixed. He said I could have just gone in there and said no to the continuance and that I wanted this done so I could move on with my life but I didn't. And I told h yes I'm grateful you did but there is not guarantee...he said there has never been but we've still slept together. I said i know and you've yet to be without me this whole year...you've always had me there. He said I don't know what your point is because when you call to come over I let you and when I call for you to come over you do...so we've both had each other. I said yes that is true. Yet the only one unsure here is you...I know I don't want the d...he said we'll go to counseling to make a decision.


I kind of lost my arguement after that...I have the flu on top of everything else. I ended up going over there to sleep with him. There were no ILYs but he did say he'd call me when he got back from Florida and kissed me good bye.

Should I have stayed away? Should I keep sleeping with him? He does want to go to counseling. He said if we don't know in 90 days what to do...then we won't know in 6 months. I'm not so sure about that and I don't know what to do next. He says we'll start counseling the first week of Decemeber and go every week until our next hearing on 2/13/04 (one day short of our 14th anniversary).

Any advice on what I should do? How I should behave?

Cindy

PS> Thanks for all your prayers! I had some prayer warriors in the courtroom with me...God did move! I sure God has a plan for these 90 days. Glory be to God because it was all Him.