And that is why it is so important to detach as much as you can. Consider how you might respond to a 3yo or a 13yo who says "I hate you!" You can't respond to your H right now as we might to our kids -- "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I love you, and always will" -- but you can develop a similar internal attitude, with practice, that will shield you from some of the hurt. Think of him as a frustrated, confused and petulant kid, lashing out at anyone in his path, and, as kids do, especially at those who are least likely to abandon him for his behavior.
Yes, I know how painful it is. I've been there. Keep reading, learning, and taking care of you.
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Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
