I have wondered about your WAW and her staying late at work almost every day and comes in with her angry mood. Gee, doesn't she get it? She chose to stay late but she is pretending that she's upset b/c she was late?
It is either a pretense or the anger is b/c OM R is not going like she wanted. And....there's the chance of OM2. The EA affect is very addictive. Enough so that if OM1 doesn't contine then she could find a #2. It is the "drug" affect that is desired. But, I hope that is not what is happening. But it's a little hard to believe that she is angry at her own choice of being late!
I believe that a woman needs to be "called out" when she is acting like a b!tch. When she is showing her tail in front of the kids, or when she's taking it out on you......she needs to be called out. That is when you need to be agressive in standing up to her.
There is one thing I've notice most LBH's saying, and that is when they say they speak with a nice/calm voice. I just wanted to mention that a WAW usually needs a "firm" voice. I have told several men that they need to speak in a firm...low or soft voice. You see GW, you are a typical nice guy and to talk nicely may not be what she needs. I personaly think she would respond to you speaking in a firm voice.
I believe she needs to be called out about her neglect on the girls b/c I'm concerned that it will lead to setting really bad "habits" in her. She will rely upon you taking more & more responsibility and she will become less & less involved. About the only way you can "force" her to do that is if you simply refuse to do it. You may not be able to force her to be a good parent, but there are some things you can put the pressure on her to do with the kids.
The difference in a LBH & a LBW is that men can put themselves in a role of acting almost being a parent with the WAW and it can be affective. Especiall where respect is concerned. However, a woman cannot do that with a WAH b/c it just doesn't work when it's reversed. Do you see what I'm saying?
BTW, I have been curious about something. Which of you has the higher rank?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
