Allen A, Thanks for all the great advice. I said exactly what you said to him "We CAN save this marriage, its a choice the TWO of us make, no one else. we can make this thing turn out great or not.. its all OUR decision"
I found out today that OWH knows about my H, but was told they are just close friends. I will be informing him tonight, that from what I seen they were at least kissing, and my H admitted to me that they had kissed. However, I do believe my H is down playing what they have done, as all cheaters do. I hate to do something behind my H back, but with this, I think it's best if he doesn't know that I'll be talking to OWH.
I'm not sure when my H will be willing to move back in. At the beginning of our separation, I really pressured him to move back in, which pushed him further away. I did tell him we can take this slow, and when he is ready, we can discuss whether I'm ready for him to move back.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
