Once he has hope at home, he won't need to cheat... Until you guys get there, he's at risk of falling back into the affair again.

I am wondering if its better to WARN him you will be telling the OWH or whether you should just do it.

What do you think pup?

As an example of honesty from MB here maybe she should tell her H she will be telling the OWH about his wife's affair... give her H a heads up...

OR... mabye its best to do it behind her H's back? I don't like that, i am afraid it might do some damage... the OWH MUST be TOLD, i am just debating over the execution