Met my h at the soccer practice tonight. Didn't say anything to me but asked son if he'd like to come spend the night Saturday night after the soccer game (this so h doesn't have to make 2nd trip to pick up boys on Sunday for regularly scheduled visitation).. Sons don't want to go Saturday night so I phoned h to let him know. He asked to speak to sons...1st son gets on calmly tells h he doesn't want to go...h keeps going on and on. My son gives me the phone while h is still talking and says I told dad no but he keeps going. So I get on phone tell h what's up...son said no why are you still going. He said that it was because I fill their heads with crap is why they don't want to be with him...I say yeah that's all I have to do is sit around here and talk about you. I also said I'm sorry you feel that way but the boys told you their decision in answer to your questions so there you go. I said it is totally logical to me that they go home with you after the game but the boys don't want to and that is their decision. Sorry. He was quite pissed but I validated though his blaming me was pissing me off big time! He said finally that I better have them there at 8am on Sunday and don't be f*****g late! I said ok, ok, ok, hung up.
I know what his problem is...it is pride. He doesn't want to admit he's wrong, that he KNOWS what he should do but doesn't want to be told by a woman...he'd rather sacrifice his kids and wife to save face. He knows he's hurting us but doesn't care enough to do anything about it. Boy, does that fire me up!
And to think I so wanted to be back with him...was bawling my eyes out when I realized he's not ever going to change.
