Eric, This may sound harsh but you've got some work to do my friend. Every one of the questions you asked sounds like someone who is paralyzed by fear. Seems you are questioning every move you make. Your driving yourself nuts.
Go back and work on yourself. You have mentioned that you were controlling. Did you just white knuckle through this? Generally people are controlling for a reason. Have you addressed those reasons?
Use this as a learning and growing experience. Live the life you want to live. Then invite your W to join you. Hopefully she has worked on herself enough to appreciate what she has in you.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
