Ugh, so sorry to hear about this - I believe this is why people keep insisting piecing is so hard. Don't we want to be swept off of our feet! Don't we want to dive back in! Don't we want the second honeymoon!
I'm sorry you aren't feeling the welcome you deserve - remember ODP and perhaps calmly express yourself to him one relaxing night and then leave it. You can let him know you were really hoping for a more romantic VD this year of all years after the pain you had to endure being left and all and that you really hoped he could understand your feelings on that.
And then drop it.
He's probably struggling with whatever conflict he has emotionally, like rr22 said perhaps shame over returning, over his bad behavior, over not having an income - I'm sure it feels quite insensitive to you and I know how it feels. But ask and listen - what he is feeling. Get him to open up if you can - by being supportive and calm, not ready to attack!!!!
