loving distance

[courageous wife]

Thanks RW!!! Just got off the phone with Cheryl the DB coach. She feels that maybe H is feeling like he is no longer needed! I have been working so hard to show that I can be independent with out him and the few times he has been here the kids have gone about their business doing computer, TV that he may feel like we don't want/need him. She got this also from my description of the OW, that she is a needy/needs rescue woman. She has had an abusive past.

I am to get H to do more than spend an hour or 2 with the kids here. He needs to make plans and do something with them. This weekend is H's birthday and he did mention going out to eat with the kids, even if it is just Subway. I am to look good, smell good etc. like I have plans and if he invites me, hesitate and go if I want to. Also, need to find some things around here that we NEED H to do for us whether it is a school project, or a repair around here. H does mention every time he comes over that I should call him if I need something.

So much more that we talked about to think about but will start with getting H on a schedule with the kids and go from there! I am happy to have something to work on here!