I have come to the conclusion that I am indeed adding somewhat to her confusion or behavior by not putting down some solid boundaries,
DBS,
Agreed.
You're looking for an option that does not mean Divorce.
How about an ultimatium?
(HEADS up new people, this is NOT the normal way to go about this. DBS has been trying for a long time. Ultimatums are a last resort.)
The ultimatum IS a boundary.
HOW you bring it up is just as important as the words. And you Need to live with her picking from the choices you give her.
You get concilling and work on this, and we get concilling and work on us, or I do not see this working out anymore. I love you but I have no more in me to give unless I see some sign that we are worth it from you.
And DBS, it is all in. She chooses not to and you don't end it...then your a paper tiger in her eyes, a door mat.
This is really all or nothing, a last resort.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
