Quote: I guess what I am saying is figure out what YOU want and then have the backbone to really go for it...or you won't get it.
You are right. I need to make my own decision. Lots of advice to be had out there that's for sure! But no one can really know a person...I don't even know how my h will behave should I dismiss.
I will make one last attempt to stop the d but if the d is what he says wants....I'm going to go with it. The bible says that if the unbelieving spouse leaves we should not hang on desperately and that is what the continuance would be....me hanging on desperately. If he tells me he wants the d when I ask him Saturday, then that is what will happen. The decision will be made and I won't fight my h anymore on it.
I plan to tell him I'm sorry for the cruel things I said on Tuesday, that I'm sorry I moved out, sorry that I filed for the divorce but I can't undo the past. I would if I could and I've really learned that separation and divorce are not the answers to marital problems. I'm asking for my h's forgiveness and permission to dismiss the divorce or at the very least a continuance of 6 months. I'll say that I know he has no reason to trust me but I will ask that he please look at the heart that I've had during our marriage to forgive and to extend the same to me. I'll say I love him and truly want our family together again. I'm sorry that h is angry and upset, I know that he is angry and upset and I'm sorry. What else should I say to him?
Quote: as long as H isn't abusing you or the kids....
He ignores us. My son thinks my h is not his real father because he truly doesn't think h loves him. No hugs, no interaction, no involvement. For seven years, when I've hugged my h, he'd leave his arms hanging down at his side. Oh, but he hugged me once when my grandpa died.
I'm not sure if even trying to talk to him one more time will make any difference.
