Quote: have you read the begining of dr? the section on well meaning friends and family?
it is very easy for outsiders especially those close to us to see the sit through a biased eye...and even for people here who don't know us as we don't often give all the facts.
Yes, this is true and I remember it from DR.
Quote: a decision to d or not to d should be yours and yours alone...yes of course you have your children to consider but don't allow the thougths of other to sway your decision one way or another.
I just feel either way will be wrong...I know that if I dismiss I stand the chance of my h turning on me, or maybe living with him the same way...getting the old r back. Or going through with the d, my h finally seeing his role in this and coming home or getting d and never seeing him again, sharing my kids occassionally. All the scenarios suck! I say I'll get the same r back because he's not changed. Yes, I've changed and could probably do quite well with him...but I'd still live with no affection, no ILYs, no interaction with the kids, no help with them. It appears to be a no win situation for everyone no matter what I decide. Getting my old r back will not make me happy.
Quote: holding off on or cancelling your file for d...
I have not said stop the continuance yet. Who knows maybe at the hearing he'll have changed his mind and agree to the continuance....it's all up in the air still.
