I do believe also that men have a hard time picking up the reins after their wives have done things for so long. My ex would just wait for me to do it, knowing that I would get fed up of asking.
Perhaps it is simplistic to say "H I will not be making the joint appointments anymore. You will need to do so. I do think the C is necessary but it is now your task to arrange."
Keep up the positive thoughts.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory