Let's see, the first 3 are negative, what you will not do. Being calm when angry? Sure, we all do that! Not. There's no such thing. Listening to her better....that's actually a positive and it could help. Put that first.
And drop the rest. They all center around you getting what you want. Start with the listening. And look into Retrouvaille, www.helpourmarriage.org. They can show you what a good marriage looks like. They can help you get there with positive steps. I guarantee you that bringing a shopping list of the type of woman you want to your wife will not fix your marriage.
