Don't really have any relational observations or advice for you (not that you ever agreed with most of mine anyway), but just wanted to say that anyone with this lying around:
Originally Posted By: SmileysPerson
So there he is, Smiley's Person Himself, in a kitchen redolent of sourdough and cedar chips, with a case of assorted wines to be sorted into the pantry, and a 'fridge full of various and sundry leftovers from various Weber-grill-related experimentations.
is okay in my book.
You're also, you realize, quite mad, but at least you have a lot of friends in your madness, and Themselves who clearly love you.
OK, so I lied. I do have one observation. When your wife listens to this:
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Fast-forward 30 minutes more -- minutes 1-20 were me basically laying down The Law on her getting Squared Away on the parenting (take a class, go to co-counseling with The Boy, whatever it takes -- whether you wanted to be or not "for real," you're The Mother now, and you need to Step Up your game) and minutes 20-30 were me laying down The Law on the nastygram phone calls, etc. (don't tilt your head at me like you don't know what I'm talking about -- you know you do these things, and it's going to stop).
She hears:
"If I call him in crisis, he will come. Bearing goodies, no less. And he will be kind."
Your wife is in crisis at the moment. And people in crisis cognate on very BASIC levels. I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure that you can say "Three" as much as you want, but your wife is putting together 2 and 2, and all she's hearing is "Four."
