Your H might as well have said "I'll give up drinking if we decide I will not be an alcoholic". He has to decide for himself if he wants the M, and then figure out what that decision implies. Your actions will be to (hopefully) drive home the impact of losing you / the M, and blowing the cover of the fantasy.
Just because he is in his fog don't mean you gotta start buying into it too
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
