I just sat here (taking a studying break) and was reading back on your sitch. There are allot of similarities in our sitch and we have actually been going at it for about the same time. My W never "physically" left and the MC was long ago and we did go to separate C's but wow I think I am where you are...
I told him since my choice is to be monogamous cause I like it, it's what fits me and my romantic ideas, cheating and getting things from "other sources" outside my M, is not an option for me. My only option is to try to create what I want with him, or if that aunt possible, with someone else if I am lucky. I told him I am very afraid of what is going to happen and know that this is taking a huge step hopefully forward but I feel good and happy with my decisionI have finally found some peace. I am USING my right to CHOOSE how I want my life to be and honestly I ONLY want him to do the same. I think the timing is right for both of us. I wish you were my MC…
Let me ask you this...Did reading PM get you to this point? Did it really help? You see for me… When I read it I liked what I read but it seems to me that unless both W and I learned something from the book it was only helping me… not both of us. Yes it helped our marriage ˝ ways but the other half was up to her...Do you understand what I am trying to say?
Maybe I should read it again Right now we are both preparing for job interviews so the stress level it pretty high so it will have to wait but soon…. Very soon
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Last edited by Dr LOve; 02/01/1003:49 PM.
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