Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

I'm not in the alt. I don't do FaceBook or any of those things.

I'm still working on having a different perspective regarding my kids. The welfare of my kids is the most important thing in my life. I've been weak in the past, since their mother left, and have depended on them for some of my emotional needs. That was wrong. They sensed it, and it bothered them.
They need me to be a rock. And I need to be a rock. For them. I'm doing better in that regard. I'm learning not to take stuff personal. They've got a lot of stuff going on in their heads now. Puberty, school, their parents are divorcing, the only family and safety and security they've ever known is shattered, etc.. They need me to LOVE them (and all that entails)...they don't need me to be their friend, and I don't need to worry about whether or not they 'like' me either.
I've had them for the last 7 nights in a row. Their mom went on another cruise, and made no provisions for them regarding getting them ready for school, getting them to and from school, who they were supposed to stay with, etc.. She's supposed to have them on my work days. She hasn't communicated with me at all regarding any of this. Oldest daughter was, I suppose, supposed to watch them and handle these things on my work days...but she decided, at the last nanosecond, thay she had other things to do that were more important to her.
Anyway, we've been doing pretty good since their mom has been gone (a couple of rough spots though). 13 y/o wanted me to take her to the movies last night, so we went and had a good time.

Unconditional love, strength, compassion, and wisdom...these are things I want to emulate 'to' them and 'for' them.