I think what we were trying to let B know was that he could have been friendlier.
It is a fine line to walk, but this was not R related, she called for whatever reason she chose to and he had an opportunity to act like a friend.
He could have responded to her picking up her friend comment with something along the lines of “be careful in the bad weather” or even “have a good evening.”
I think it is just a matter of showing an interest, but an interest he might have with a casual friend. No questions, no real major deep comments, but not acting like she was someone who he didn’t know at all or didn’t care about at all and was just saying something because it was his turn to open his mouth. “Ok fine” is something I use with business aquaintances and strangers. With someone that I could care less if they would talk to me again or not….
B,
You were totally right. Although most of us don’t know what it is to become a doctor, we definitely know and understand what it is to have everything you worked so hard for ripped away from you in an instant.
You are ok. We all have good and bad days. You just have to learn to not let the bad ones knock you down too hard.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Would I be anywhere else for all the tea in China? Not a chance.
Best cup of tea I ever had in my life was at the Daintree rain forest near Cape Tribulation. I brought some home, but it did not last long. I need to go back.
Right now when She calls, Bradley has the opportunity to shine, and be engaging.
And from my point of view he should be jumping on those opportunities.
His responses (to me) however, seems to be similar and short to what I imagine his responses were in Med school for 9 years. Short. No offense Bradley, but time, school and work being what they were I imagine that your wife felt ignored or lead to believe she was unappreciated.
When not arguing, fighting, talking about the R...use the opportunity to be wity, engaging, somoen she remembers wanting to be around.
His terse responses are more like being dark or dim.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
W just called. she got back w boys from the weekend. she's shoveling snow and wanted to tell me how much fun she was having. I was witty and charming... I've been sortof dying inside a bit today.
and you are right. previously I know I made her feel like she was annoying me... though she was not.
getting things settled w the new job... it does not feel good at all yet. but hopefully it will at some point!
I need to be happy to have such a good job. it really is a good job. ego is fighting me a bit with it.
need to be more of a zen buddhist. non attatchment... beginners mind.
