You know that 'starting all over' takes me by surprise each time I see it! It's a hard concept to grasp though I think I'm doing it. It's hard to see this as the slate wiped clean because I keep expecting my h's reactions to things I do and say to be a certain way.
They were not this weekend....for example at one point my son and I got into a disagreement and instead of helping me my h let me deal with son alone. It was almost like hey the kids act up when you are here you deal with it...I didn't much like it but hey I dealt with it. I probably should have said something but he seemed to respect what discipline I meted out for our son and left us alone.
I'm sure my h is thinking the same thing about me...hey she's not doing what she normally does. Well at least I hope that is what he's thinking about my changes.
Oh, and about OW...well I found out or actually saw her trying to get back together with her h that has filed for d! So there is nothing there between my h and ow (well at least this ow that I know of).