OMT - I agree with you on what is best for the kids. I have thought about this a lot and also discussed it with my IC. My IC said that if you ask a kid if they want their parents to split because they argue they will say NO and that they always will want to keep their family together.
Our kids have heard arguments over the past year here and there. They are about a month to 6 weeks apart now primarily some angry words, nothing more, usually related to her disrespecting me or not being polite in front of our kids - sometimes the examples she sets is really awful and we would never want our kids to talk to other people like she does to me at times. The arguments were more frequent about a year ago when I was an emotional wreck.
Now, after all this, my W says she wants to leave because it isn't good for the kids, but the situation has been the same or worse for the previous year, so why is it an issue now?
The point is she wants to leave for HER not our KIDS. In fact, staying 'for the kids' was her story up until now.
Again, what she says she wants, and actually wants and does, could be completely two different things.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
