There were really similar dynamics when H and I were in counselling, ending in May/09. The C really put the focus on H shifting, and they did a couple of IC sessions together. Unfortunately, he just wouldn't deal with his stuff. The counsellor kept saying we were "at an impasse" and we eventually stopped going. It sounds like your MC is more skillful though, and your H made a breakthrough that my H never did (when I was present anyway). It sounds like your H is making himself pretty vulnerable in C, and that's also promising.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
