My H was fearful of being intimate with me because he didn't want to get reattached after having detached...but eventually, we did start being intimate again. At first, I had to act like he was acting..like it was no big deal...that we were still married and so might as well get sex from one another...but then slowly but surely other things started to happen. Little affectionate touches afterward, spooning in bed before falling asleep, etc. He and I did Not have sex for a while and slept in separate rooms, because at first, after we had sex..he did withdraw and I made a really big deal of it! That pushed him away further...and it took months to get him back into even wanting to have sex with me. He didn't want the emotional baggage that I had thrown at him...so my advice?
Keep having sex with your H, but keep things light. No R talks, just have fun... if he withdraws from time to time...let him be. He is confused and needs time to think. If you go getting all needy and pursue him...he'll run!
It's a pattern that we see a lot around here. I sure saw it in my H.
And good job on shaking things up a little by leaving earlier than you had to! Mystery is a wonderful thing..leave him guessing now and then...keeps him interested!
