W asked me if I am happier, 6 hours after I asked to separate again. She thought I was. I said that I was because I felt hope that she was going to get help and that if we work - I believe we'd have a great forever M.
She said she didn't think so and might leave me with the 5 kids until a D was finalized...
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Well, how else is she supposed to feel - you bully her, tell her she has self-esteem problems and generally disrespect her. Yes, you do. I will repeat it-yes you do. You may not realize it but you are doing so.
Listen, listen, listen- you need to seriously gain some insight here. She is telling you she needs to see some changes from you. Perhaps she is telling you in the wrong way with yelling and screaming. She hasn't learned the tools how to have a more productive conversation yet. You can teach her these things. But first and foremost- you need to learn them yourself!
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
