It's time for you to admit something: Your values have changed. What used to be important no longer matters. That means it's time to make some corresponding outward changes -- some big ones. Fortunately, you're more than ready, even if it means saying good-bye to people, things or ways of life that were once primary to you. Don't worry about it. You'll get through this the same way you get through everything: Bravely.
This Friday, Feb. 5, we're supposed to have a hearing and it could be the D day.
In the last 2 weeks I've met with a contractor, real estate agent, emailed my L almost daily, and sent one very firm, somewhat pissy, email to H thanking him for saddling me with the clean up and sale of the house after he sent another woe is me email stating that he has "limited time now and teaches five days a week".
I replied "I TEACH FIVE DAYS A WEEK TOO". Oh well, he was due. What's the point of DBing now anyway?
He wrote back that he would come during his 3 day spring break (it's 5 days, I checked the school's schedule) and he would "move the rest of my stuff and do what I can in the little time that I have".
Ah, how nice of him. And that's the first time that he's EVER acknowledged that he still has stuff here.
I have a response planned but haven't sent yet - "Your spring break is too late. I'm putting the house on the market by March 1. Please choose either the weekend of Feb. 12, 19, or 26 and let me know as soon as possible. You might want to rent a small U-Haul truck. Not only do you need to take your clothes and books but all of your grandmother's Xmas decorations, all of the boxes of seahells, and your chest of drawers/bedside table. Also, the garage has to be cleaned out as well as the boat. Please make arrangements to have it hauled off".
But there's still no agreement. The Ls are supposed to be working on it - I've yet to see a draft even. I'm contemplating asking for a postponement but not if it's going to be rescheduled another 6 months away.
How come I'M DOING ALL THE WORK BUT IT'S H THAT WANTS THE D?!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
