Well put. And, I agree wholeheartedly. Every now and then, I see glimpses of the woman I fell in love with and M'd. Then, as quickly as she appears, she's gone again.
In my case...when she would dissappear back into herself, it was almost as if the tough her was catching herself acting like she used to...and she was like "hey I cant be acting like that".
And yeah...you shouldnt settle for anything else than having 100% of the person you fell in love with back...as the person they became is the one who hurt you anyway.