Just a thought about your wife's point on the fighting in front of the kids...
I read a study that said many kids from divorced parents who were considered to be physically abusive still wanted their parents together.
I thought about the kids for a while, but then I realized they were an excuse - leaving definately will hurt them in the short and possibly long term.
My cousin had it rough, but he said that even today as a 30 yr old he expects relationships to end at some point. Others I know were OK with it, but it seems to hit a nerve.
As I say this, I've got 3 months to reconcile or D with my wife and 5 kids...so I am not all hope, but she might want to reconsider her reasons to exclude the kids.
