Met with W earlier in the week. It was supposed to be a quick meeting (30 mins.) with marriage counsellor to sign separation agreement (it was never signed). It ended up being 3 hours. She read me a prepared letter.
Here are some of W's notable phrases: > when she left, although she said she was committed to the marriage, she didn't mean it, she had written it off > she was afraid I would blow up, so she softened it > she doesn't want to give false hope > she told me I don't have to wait for her, she is broken (i.e. if i meet someone else) > now that she has left, nothing is better. > she is NOW open to God's plan for us, she has moved pass her anger > she is not even begun to heal > she can't try right now > she was angry for the first month and half but she is dealing with different emotions currently > living with friends sheltered her from the reality of the situation but now that she is out on her own she is overwhelmed > she said the separation agreement is the next logical step, she feels it is only logical since we are living separate > she said the separation agreement does not mean finality... it is just prudent and can easily be ripped up with the provision for reconciliation > she sees me changing > she believes the changes are real > she believes the changes are authentic > she is impressed > she didn't expect this at all > the letter I apologizing for my faults meant a lot to her > she could tell i put a lot of time into it > she thinks i don't understand after the letter (i called her on the cut & running as a pattern in her leave and the fact that i believe she has a deep emotional void she hopes a man will fill.) > fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me > she said I was the "perfect" boyfriend and she "held on" (for a whole 1.5 years) when things got tough because she thought I would return to the night in shining armour
The counsellor told me after the session, that he was blown away. That as far as he was concerned she had written off the marriage but now she has changed her tune and opened a door.
She has softened her heart by opening the door for us to get back together. She cried through the entire session.
I assume this all more WS script. As Sandi is saying, she is just leaving the door open if relationship with OM fails.
