i've had a lot of time to spend alone with my thoughts in the last few weeks. i am finally able to understand that it is my resistance to some of those things about him that has been the wedge between us, rather than the actual behaviors themselves. i do not want to sweep anything under the rug or go back to what we were doing before. in my vows, i promised to love him for who he is. obviously, i didn't get us in this situation totally on my own, but i can honestly see that i haven't given 100% to living up to that promise to him.
anyone have advice on next steps for me? i feel like he's in an iffy place right now...he's not sure what the next step is, he's unsure about the separation and he has said he loves me. i don't want to push him away by crowding him, but i don't want to act aloof and not let him know i am here and i want to work on this.
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
