When you said you want change in your M, too, would you accept your H exactly as he is? If you have already made a list of things that you've complained/critisized in him, maybe go through the list and see if you can really accept it, not just cover it up.
HAVE A GREAT WEEK ~ nobody's perfect, and the marriage can only be a failure if you want it to be. Otherwise, it is an experience planned and given by God to make you, him, others, or any combination better. You've said you've grown...love your growth.
