I was just like your h. I neglected my ex's emotional needs, I was self centered. Not always but she only remembers the bad times. Sounds like when he is drinking his inhibitions are lowered. The real him comes out. Maybe he needs some ADs. I've been on them for about 3 weeks now. I am able to let things go that I have no control over, it has helped me to accept how things are. But not to quit trying, just lets me focus on the positives and ride out the negatives a little better.
