Fast track to her divorcing me

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Yeah the friendship thing has me wondering about her motives.

But in my case I am believing now that there may not be an OM.
She is probably just a WAW burned out on our marriage and I was too blind to see it. If true then my going dark approach may not be the best one but Im still learning. I will treat it as I see it unless I see evidence otherwise.

She is still protective of her phone and PC so there still may be a long distance EA. Not confirmed.

But mind you that I have the key to where she lives (Son's Home but all three of us on Note, Son lives with me now). She has not asked for my key and she retains the key to My home as well. It's kind of like a Mexican Standoff in that neither of us want to go back to the way things were four weeks ago as it wasnt pretty. And a W thas is cheating will not give you access to her home AFAIK so I lost a lot of my prev insecurity realizing that.

Why is she getting interested in being with me and talking with me more? I can only guess but it started after we were separated for a few weeks.

Its either:

a)She is reconsidering the D. Least probably. Too early for that and she is still keeps me at arms length. To be expected as its D-Day -9 days away now.

b)She could simply be using me which is likely. And if I come to that conclusion I will stop being receptive to her calls etc.

c)She could honestly want me as a friend (most likely sitch).

Or

d)She's bored?

Probably a little of b c and d combined.

I have impoved my myself greatly after she moved out and it shows. While she was there I did all the typical LBS whining etc. Almost 180 now with a few slips now and then. I think this is part of the reason for her being more interested. I just thought this would take much longer than 3 weeks of separation so Im stumped.

What do I want? My wife back. Would I settle as a friend? Maybe, I think you have to be friends before you can move on to R so I see it as a good thing for now.

Now if she decides later to get a boyfiend or one majically pops up in the next few months then that would change everything because it would be obviouse she planned that. No going back after that AFAIAC. Just how I feel right now. But like others here you never know how you will feel 6months -3 years from now.

I have no end date. Right now time is all I have. Dont want to date other women till after divorce some time (if ever). I see her wanting to be friendly to me as a good thing right now as it will allow me to DB and show more 180s etc.

Honestly I have dated one woman recently but we are just friends. Not a real date. We just support each other. Its not an EA or anything like that. That's a whole other topic LOL.

Mind you I did finish DB and am starting DR after I finish reading Men/Mars book. And still not sure which way to go right now.

Im kind of torn as to what to do and am guarded right now. Ill just see what she does. She calls me at least once a day now. I consider these all baby steps from her and it feels good. Im meeting her in the middle. Im always open to suggestions from the vets here.

Sorry for the long winded posts. I tend to overanalize stuff.