Quote: Have you told him this SAME thing in the past? IF you have, then he's already heard it.
Yes, I've told him. I need to shut up and validate which I did Tuesday night when we talked...I let him talk while I sat and listened.
Quote: Remember his background? He's a mess and there's nothing you can do to change the last seven years.
I need to have pity on the man and stop pushing my needs in his face...let him have the floor so to speak and be supportive and loving. I just get scared and want reassurance which I guess only serves to push him farther into the cave. I won't call him then.
Quote: If he says he doesn't trust you say something like "I know you don't trust me, I know are past hasn't been the best.
When he said that he didn't trust me, I told him that if he'd done the filing for the divorce and attempted reconciliation, I would have a hard time trusting him too. I didn't ask how I could build his trust again. Put in for the dismissal?
Quote: What happened with the continuance?
The continuance has been scheduled for the SAME day as the divorce hearing!!! Because it is that week the county will listen to all family cases. So my attorney will get some time to put our case for the continuance before the judge and have her decide to either extend for 6 months or to grant us a divorce. It will be difficult because my h at that time can say he wants the divorce and that may sway the judge to grant it. Though my attorney does feel like we have evidence that a continuance is in our best interest...mainly because I'm the one that filed the divorce and am now the one asking the continuance. The judge may not even consider my h's testimony. It's a big gamble that will take place November 17th. I'm nervous to say the least!!!
I so want this time around with H to be different. He shifts so much in his mood that I'm afraid to do anything because it may be the wrong thing. Like if I call him to ask him out...will that be wrong because I'm assuming he wants to go out with me when he may not want to...the last couple of times I've asked he's said absolutely NOT he wanted the d. Now do I go with he's changed his mind about the d because we ML or WHAT? I asked him but he made to mention of where we are going as a result of ml. I'll have to wait on him, I guess would be my better bet?
