I, semi-regretfully, re-began our steps toward divorce today.
W and I were still fighting over problems, and she began again with I can’t continue this way type of stuff. Later, I returned more calmly, apologizing for some of my earlier behaviour. I tried to direct her to counselling. She refused after a lot of fighting/arguing. I asked her if she understood that I couldn’t go on without her going to counselling, she said she didn’t care, wouldn’t go.
I, sitting, asked for a divorce again. She began with anger saying that it was now over and we need to move on forever. I told her I hope she reconsidered counselling and trying to love me for who I am, then, I held her and she hugged back and cried. I felt some remorse for what I had done, and still do. We have 3 months to work it out or move on.
We talked for a half an hour about why I did this – that she has said ‘nothings changing’ and ‘there’s not hope so we should divorce’ and other similar messages 7 times in one month, three times of which she clearly asked to get the divorce started. I strongly expressed that I hope she will come to improve her self-esteem so that she can get her needs met (and me mine) without resorting to all or nothing statements, doom and gloom, and anger.
